Every Day Finances

A Note from Jill

Last month (as we do every January) we got back on track after holiday spending. We looked at our finances and made some changes. This year, we tracked our spending to see where our money was going. Not many surprises for us – that’s a good thing.

We find that when we track our spending, we think twice about those little impulse expenses: bringing lunch from home instead of eating out, planning dinner ahead versus picking up take-out. All these little things add up for us.

I encourage you to do this for 30 days. It takes less than 5 minutes a day and can be eye opening. Let me know what you find out about your spending habits. If the thought is overwhelming, my budget tracker could make things easier for you. You just enter the numbers and it adds it all up for you.

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You’ll have to prove it. Make sure you have the paperwork.

Things that mean very little in a court of law:

Your memories
Your mother’s memories
Your friends opinions
Photos of you smiling with some of your stuff in the background.

What am I getting at? I want you to face the fact that paperwork is part of life.

You can have a lot of wonderful things without legal documents: love; a nice meal; a beautiful sunset. But, you can’t get legally married, register the birth of your child, or insure your home without them. So, if you’re basking in the glow of a beautiful sunset in your own backyard, enjoying a barbecue, and surrounded by family and friends – there was paperwork involved.

Don’t slack on it. Strive to keep it up-to-date on an annual basis. Neglecting your paperwork can be just as bad for your family life as neglecting a loved one’s birthday.

Go through your files and check up on your:

Life insurance
Long Term Care insurance that may combine with life insurance
Retirement accounts – IRA’s, 401K / 403B, Roth IRA’s
Savings bonds
Bank accounts that are payable on death
Investments (stocks, bonds etc)

Legal documents are too often overlooked and the results can be devastating. Who’s in charge of your stuff if you suddenly pass away. If you haven’t updated your paperwork, you may have left everything to an unreliable friend, or a deceased parent instead of your spouse or adult child. In this case, I suggest that you name a second beneficiary. For our wills, we even have a third beneficiary. My attorney suggested this and it’s terrific. When my father passed away, I didn’t have to update my will. My second choice was already in place. How easy was that?

I know you’re busy, but when you, or your family, are dealing with a major life crisis, you won’t want to spend time thinking about these things. Make a habit of reviewing your important documents on a regular basis so your loved ones will receive the things you labored to give them.

If you need more convincing, check out this ABC news story

Get things done to start the year right!

There are several things I do in January to make a fresh start for myself and my family.

I take the credit cards out of my wallet and put them in my copy machine. Why do I do this? So, I’ll have up-to-date information on my cards in case my wallet is lost or stolen. If you want to do this, too, make sure to spread your cards out on the paper so you’ll have room to hand-write the contact phone numbers found on the back of the cards. This serves a few purposes:

You won’t have to go online or search past bills for contact numbers in case you need to cancel those cards in a hurry.
You will know exactly which cards you need to call on, and,
You’ll remember to take the credit cards off the copier.

I set new files for 2013. This includes my accordion multi-pocket folder for this years’ tax information. If I am organized at the start of the year, I will be all set for the accountant at year end.

I shred our paystubs when the W-2’s come in. Check to make sure they agree first!

We review last year’s bills. We really like to save money on every day expenses so we can afford the the things we really enjoy. So, we look at how we’ve spent our money in the past year to see if we can make any improvements. In the past, we have deregulated our electric, lowered our cell phone package, and cut out TV channels we don’t watch. We have made choices about what subscriptions to keep and what not to renew, keeping only the most useful magazines and memberships.

January is a month we plan our extra spending. These are the expenses that aren’t in the usual monthly budget, but are essential to our standard of living. If you want to plan your extra spending, here are some examples and tips:

What do you want to do this year for fun? We usually already have a vacation or two in mind.
What big events are taking place for your family or circle of friends? You usually know a year in advance if someone is planning a family reunion or getting married. Be sure to factor in travel costs.
What home projects do you need or want? With this past year’s weather, you may be thinking it’s time for that major improvement to your home.

If you need to spend money to have it, then it’s worth planning ahead. It’s so much easier and less stressful to have the money saved than to try to figure out where can to get the money at the last minute.

Of Love and Shared Bank Accounts

I recently led a discussion about relationships and money: how to blend, and end, your finances with someone else. Questions were asked, and there were some interesting conversations going on in the room. Then, a few weeks ago, a long time reader of Quick Tips asked about shared bank accounts. I decided it was time to write about this subject again.

First of all, you may choose not to blend your finances at all. Many couples keep separate accounts and actually have happier and more successful partnerships because there are fewer arguments about who spent money on what and who overdrew the bank account. Others choose to handle their money and debts together, and they do just fine. The choice is yours.

Look at your habits and goals when you consider whether to combine your accounts or keep them separate:

How does each of you handle savings and debt repayment? Do you have similar philosophies, or are your bank balances mirror opposites, with one carrying a large debt balance and the other carrying a large savings balance?

Do you have the same financial goals? Or, is one of you saving mainly towards retirement, while the other wants to save for amazing vacations and a nice car.

Does one, or both, of you have any issues that you would bring into a blended financial arrangement? For example, are there any debts that are currently in collections or that were charged off; bankruptcy; judgments; wage garnishments; or tax liens?

Some people find this subject to be a touchy one. I even received an angry comment on my blog by someone who insisted that married people should share everything equally. But, keeping separate accounts isn’t about holding out, or being less in love. Sometimes, it’s about protecting each other and making decisions that will carry you furthest towards your mutual goals.

If You Have Separate Accounts, How Do You Split Expenses?

Most people assume 50/50, but there are other options. You could choose different percentages based on incomes, family size, habits and hobbies. For example, if you have shared custody of your 3 kids with a former partner, then you might pay a higher percentage of the food bill. If your hobby raises the electric bill (gaming, woodworking, sewing), then you might pay a higher percentage of the utilities. You don’t have to use percentages – you can divide up the bills, where one of you pays for this expense and the other pays for that expense. The choices are as varied as the couples who make them.

The bottom line is that you need to make informed choices that are right for you individually and as a couple. Money is the biggest source of friction in relationships. Have the conversation before you get married or move in together, so you know what to expect ahead of time. If you’re already living together, it’s not too late to make changes.

Next issue, I’ll talk about separating your finances after the relationship ends.

One if Full Price, Two If Black Friday

The holidays are coming! The holidays are coming! Guard your budgets and hold onto your wallets. You might be thinking I’m crazy, but the retailers have positioned their holiday displays to disarm you of your cash.

Now is the time to remember how you felt last year when you overspent.

Can you make this year different? Can you stick to your list and not overspend? You can if you make a detailed plan. Write down exactly what you will be buying and the dollar amount you plan to spend.

Here are some suggestions that should help you with your holiday budget list.

1. Gifts

How much for immediate family?
How much for extended family?
How much for friends and co-workers?
How much for people whose services you use?

2. Entertaining

How much will it cost when you host a gathering?
How much will you spend on hostess gifts when you attend a party?

3. Travel

How much will it cost for local travel (gas, tolls, parking, etc)?
How much will it cost for long distance travel?
How much will it cost for vacation?

4. Traditions – this can be anything from an afternoon tea to a night on the town.

If you write it all down, you might realize you’re planning on spending $300-$500 on gifts for people who aren’t on your immediate family list. And hosting dinners can be expensive just because you want to put on a good appearance. Ever notice a big stain on the tablecloth and found yourself running to the store at the last minute to buy one full price?

Holiday fun can wreak havoc on your budget, but it doesn’t have to. Now is the time to get a jump start on planning, and to put away money for the details that are important to you. Think of it as your own layaway plan. Take money out of each check, in addition to your regular savings deduction, to create your own holiday fund.

Doing this now will make January 2013 less stressful.

What I Learned about Money from Sitcoms

I love to watch old sitcoms on TV Land and Nick at Nite. They’re like comfort food for the brain. I’ve seen the episodes already so there’s no suspense, and I certainly don’t expect to learn anything.

But sometimes they surprise me.

A couple of weeks ago, I was watching reruns of The Nanny. In the episode “Close Shave”, Fran is having trouble paying her credit card bills.

Here’s the conversation between Fran and Niles:

Fran: I have to pay my American Express because if I buy a piece of gum, the S.WA.T. team storms the building. Meanwhile, I pay my MasterCard with my Discover Card, my Discover card with my Optima Card, My Optima Card with my City Trust Visa.
Niles: But doesn’t that leave a very high balance on your Visa?
Fran: Exactly! And that’s why they gave me an espresso machine which I sell to pay off my American Express, thank you.

This reminded me of the Cosby episode “Theo’s Holiday.” It’s the one where Theo wants to move out using money from a modeling career (that he doesn’t have). Cliff and the family show him the real costs of living on his own.

(Start at 3:32) To see the full episode watch Part 2 and Part 3

For sitcoms, these episodes are very realistic in the way they portray people who are uninformed about money. But, the solutions weren’t realistic at all. How nice would it be if we could solve our problems in 23 minutes just like they do on TV?

Now, imagine you’re a child watching the same episodes for the first time. What would you learn? There’s a telling discussion on TV.com.

How will your kids learn about money? Will they learn from TV, or because you took the time to teach them like Theo’s family taught him? What about yourself? You’re old enough to know that your problems won’t magically go away like Fran’s. Be informed and make informed choices that are right for you.

People want their finances to be perfect – like a TV show. But most of us don’t go from a plan to success by receiving a windfall. There’s usually a long journey and detours in the road. What matters most is how you get yourself back on track. Keep yourself moving forward towards your goal and you will accomplish it.

And, if you need a little comfort, try an old sitcom. They’re cheap, there are no calories and you might learn something… but don’t count on it.

Facts about College Kids that Scare Me

Where do kids learn about banks and credit? I have gone into many schools and spoken with many teens about money. There are always a handful who say things that startle me. I have heard things like…

Do I really need to pay credit cards back?
If paying bills bothers people, why don’t they just throw the bills away?
I know I have money left in my checking account because I still have checks.
Why do people need to work when they can get money anytime they want with an ATM card?

Sound unbelievable? Not only are these ideas commonly believed by kids, but there’s a logical thought process behind each one. If you don’t explain what you’re doing, your kids will make assumptions about money based on what they hear you say and what they see you do.

Take the idea that money from the ATM is free for you anytime you need it. The boy who believed that probably heard his parents complain about not having any money, then watched as they took money from the ATM. What other conclusion could he have drawn?

The idea that you don’t have to pay your bills back comes from a general assumption about the world based on ideas of fair play. You don’t have to run laps in gym if you have a sprained ankle. You can take a make-up test if you have a sick day. Why can’t you just put off the bills if you don’t have money because you got sick? If you can’t pay, they shouldn’t expect you to. That’s fair, right?

But kids grow out of these crazy ideas, don’t they. It’s not like they hold them onto them into adulthood. Trust me, they may not believe the exact same things, but their misconceptions and ignorance can still hurt them.

Here are some scary facts about college kids and credit cards from credit.com:

91% of undergrads have at least 1 credit card
Undergrads have an average of 4-6 credit cards (that means more than half have more)
$3,173 is the average amount of undergrad credit card debt (that’s not including student loans)
25% of undergrads have paid late fees
15% of undergrads have paid over limit fees

Does this scare you? It scares me! Don’t let your kids make assumptions. Teach your child about money and credit by speaking with them. You don’t have to be perfect (no one is), but showing your child the process behind your decisions can be eye-opening.

Start Small to Have It All

This is Part 2 of my “Having it All” series. The first part is “Step One to Having it All”

Everyone has a different definition of Having it All. In the first article, I asked you to list a few goals based on what you want out of life. Now, I want you to pick one for this exercise.

Living Debt Free with Enough Money for Expenses

That’s part of the “Having It All” dream for many people, so I’ll use it to illustrate how to start small and take action steps towards your goals.

As an example, I am going to use “Save $20 per week to build $1,000 in emergency savings in 1 year.” See how specific this goal is? That lets you check your progress and feel good about your success.

It’s also a good example of starting small. It may not seem like much, but $1,000 can cover a leaky roof or a brake repair. The less often you use your credit cards, the more your savings accounts will grow. One thousand in emergency savings is a good base for building the “debt-free” dream.

Now let’s break down the goal into action steps by first asking a simple question…

Do you have $20 a week to save?

If the answer is Yes…

Step 1. Set up a separate savings account in a different bank or credit union than the one you normally use. This way you won’t have easy access and it won’t be linked to your ATM/debit card.

Step 2. Visit your HR department to set up an automatic transfer from your paycheck, or, visit your bank to have $20 per week transferred from your checking account to your new savings account, or if you do online banking you can set this up yourself.

If the answer is No…

Step 1. Reduce expenses until you can save $20 per week.* (I’ll write more on this below.) Can you bring your lunch to work? Can you cut out the impulsive shopping? Think of how you can reduce your spending to come up with the $20.

Step 2. Return to the top and take Steps 1 and 2 above.

Step 3. Tracking and celebrating your success

I want you to check in on your progress throughout the year. Are you on track to meet your goal or did something happen to throw you off? We all want to be perfect, but that’s not real life. Things happen that get in our way. You have to understand this and get back on track as soon as possible to achieve your goal.

Keeping track also allows you to celebrate and feel good about what you’re doing. This is your baby that you’re nurturing – your future, your wealth, and the beginning of your dream life.

*Just a note about personal austerity measures. “What…” you might ask, “…does giving up eating out and impulse shopping have to do with having it all!? That’s my dream lifestyle!”

First, I’ll have you know that a lot of millionaires are pretty tight fisted. They spend their money selectively instead of blowing it on any old thing that comes along. So, I challenge you to think like a millionaire.

Second, many successful entrepreneurs like Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, Julia Childs, Martha Stewart and Oprah Winfrey started with small budgets. They built their fortunes by working hard and investing their money back into their businesses, making a little bit go a long, long way. They had the discipline to put off luxury living until after they had money.

Third, cutting back doesn’t mean living unhappily. Take joy in building your dream life from the ground up.

I used saving money as an example. I challenge you to break down one of your goals into simple action steps. Let me know what you’re working on and join the discussion.

College Expenses: Books, Printing, and Meals

You’ve figured out how to cover the cost of tuition and room and board, and you think to yourself, “Now I can coast through the school year on a small budget.” Think again. College costs can continue to add up. Here are some things you may not have considered.

Text Books

Don’t underestimate the cost of books. This is not high school. They don’t come free with the course.

It’s not unheard of for a text book to cost $300 new. Some courses require multiple books. Multiply that by 5 classes and you’ve got a big dent in your budget. If you want to save time, you can buy your books at the college book store. If you want to save money, do your shopping ahead of time and try these options:

Buy Used. You can find used text books on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and eBay. Not to mention, online stores like ecampus.com, and bookbyte.com.

Rent. If you know you’ll never open the book again once class is over, you can rent from websites such as bookrent, bookrenter.com or chegg.com.

If you do rent or buy used, double-check your course requirements and the ISBN number to make sure you get the right edition of the book.

Do you need a printer?

Even though a few courses will be (mostly) paperless, you should plan on having to print some of your course work. But, you don’t have to buy a printer, because most colleges have printers for campus use. (Check with your college).

However, you may want a printer if you’re the type who does homework at the last minute, or if you’re taking courses that require a lot of writing. Let’s compare your options:

Using the campus printers: There may be a charge per page, but it’s usually pennies. Compare that to the cost of buying your own printer, paper and toner.

Using your own printer: If this is the option that works best for you, you’ll want to find good deals on paper and toner. Consider buying paper by the box and using recycled toner cartridges.

Meals and Snacks

Cafeteria meal plans. Colleges usually offer multiple meal plans. You can have 3 meals a day 7-days a week, or you can have a plan that covers lunch and dinner but not breakfast, or weekdays but not weekends. You need to choose a plan that fits your course schedule and weekend plans.

Snacks and food in the dorm room. Many college students feel that a small fridge, popcorn air-popper, and coffee-maker are essential. Check with the college to see what types of appliances are allowed in the dorms. If keeping simple foods in your room is part of your budget strategy, you’ll need to have cash and access to a grocery store to keep your fridge stocked.

Consider your class schedule. This is especially important if the cafeteria isn’t open all day. Will you miss an important meal each day if the cafeteria is only open from 7am-9am, 11am-2pm, and 4-7pm? That could make the small fridge in your dorm an essential instead of a luxury.

The cost of books, paper, toner and food can really add up. Thinking ahead will save you money.

Prepare Your College Freshman for Reality

Did you know that 1 in 4 college freshman fail to return their sophomore year? Some say the number is even higher.

A lot of reasons have been given for the high dropout rate. It may be that college itself isn’t a good fit. But the fact is that many first year college students have difficulty living in a new and stressful environment.

There’s a big difference between what 18 year olds expect from college and what they get. They look forward to the freedom and luxury of being away from home for the first time. Instead, they find that…

The dorms are crowded, noisy, and smell a like a gym locker room.
Homework and studies take most of their time and living in a dorm is distracting.
Every little comfort has to be paid for. Little things that helped them deal with stress are suddenly expensive or inaccessible. Little pleasures like a soda, snack food, fresh laundry, and a movie require cash and transportation.

Here are some thoughts and tips to make their lives and budgets easier.

Make a checklist of the items your child will need. The college and retail stores will help.

The college itself will have a checklist. Read it over carefully. It should tell you what size sheets are needed, and make recommendations based on the amount and type of storage in the dorm room and whether your child will have a private bath.
There are independent websites online that have good lists as well. But, each college living situation is different so check it against the list the college provides.
Stores such as Bed, Bath and Beyond and Target have online lists with sale prices.

Buy the supplies at stores near the college.

You won’t have to lug the items yourself (no need to rent a truck). If you buy at the store, you can avoid shipping costs (more money saved).

Prepare your child for medical emergencies.

All it takes is the flu, a slip on an icy sidewalk, or a broken filling, and suddenly your child will have to see a medical professional in an unfamiliar town.

A little research now can save you money later. Your child should know where the nearest doctors, dentists, and hospitals are so that they know where to go if they need the services. Knowing which doctors are in network for your insurance will save you money in the long run.

Set up an account at a local bank.

Which bank has ATMs on campus? If your bank doesn’t have an ATM location convenient to campus, consider opening a bank account with one that does. Even if that bank is not convenient for you at home, you can always transfer money electronically between banks.

Life coaching for college freshman

You can be your child’s life coach by making sure your child knows what to really expect from college. In movies and on TV, dorm rooms are spacious and nice looking. The people you meet are exciting, and there’s plenty of time for socializing. All the studying is done in a 5 minute montage with a catchy song track.

In reality, a shared dorm room is about the size of a walk-in closet, most of the people living there are stressed and annoyed, and studying non-stop. The small amount of socializing offers a nice but needed break at the end of a long day or week.

Colleges do offer counseling. Make sure your child knows that. If you think your child is especially unrealistic about school, or is either shy, or too social for his or her own good, you might consider life coaching. If it makes the difference between dropping out and graduating, it could be worth the cost.

Sending your child to college is expensive. Preparing your child realistically will benefit your budget and your investment.